Turning version 3.4 (34 years old) has brought with it a variety of interesting insights. For one, we have waaaay more flat shoes in our closets, we all need our sleep, we don’t mind if a night out with the girls ends before midnight, etc. One other major insight we’ve had as of late is that the topic of having children seems to creep into more conversations than not. Something about being “version 3.4” prompts everyone (even random people) to ask, “When are you going to start having some babies?” It’s as if the alarm on your biological clock is ringing loud enough for everyone else to hear it. When you couple that with the alarmingly low marriage rates for successful women of color (black women in particular), what you get are women finding ways to hit the snooze button on the biological clock while we figure out a “plan B” to make this whole baby thing happen before our eggs…<gasp!> run out…<more gasp!>. Plan B can be anything from freezing your eggs or applying for adoption to asking a male friend that you trust if he would be interested in having a baby with you if both of you are still unmarried and childless by a certain age.
So Vyne readers, we want to hear from you. If you’re in your thirtysomethings and want to have kids but haven’t yet, are you working on your plan B? If so, what is it?