Monthly Archives: April 2009

Latest Product Craze: Moroccan Oil

Moroccan OilMoroccanOil Treatment seems to be one of the latest product crazes. The product line is described as “ultra light” and “absorbed by the hair instantly resulting in natural, silky finish and brilliant shine without leaving a residue.” With products including their namesake, Moroccan Oil, Intense Curl Cream, and Restorative Hair Mask, this line is great for various hair types. Even better, they do not test their products on animals, nor do they use animal-based ingredients.
After reading several product reviews, many people have been most impressed by how it protects the hair and retains the shine after chemical processes and intense heat from hair dryers and flat irons.  So tell us, have you used Moroccan Oil? If so, what do you think?

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Is it OK for Black Families to Adopt Non-Black Children?

With images like Charlotte from Sex and the City adopting a baby from China and Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman’s adoption of a black son, it is becoming increasingly common to see white couples adopting children outside their race. However, black families adopting non-black children is almost unheard of. When it does happen, the public can be brutal. Experiencing overt criticism and public perplexity is the black, Baltimore-area Riding-Smith family who adopted an Irish American girl named Katie.

In the story published by Newsweek, the Riding-Smith family describes how they often receive confused stares and concerned looks from onlookers when they are out in public. Even when her parents are not present, Katie often gets teased at her predominantly white school, and seems to be more accepted by the black children than the white children. Whether racism or ignorance, these occurrences are common in their everyday lives. By making a concerted effort to avoid “labeling” people by their race and also celebrating both the African American and Irish American heritage of their children, the Riding-Smith family hopes to create an environment that is comfortable and inclusive for Katie.


Another story that has been in recent news is the adoption of Dallas Cowboys football player, DeMarcus Ware, and his wife, Taniqua. They adopted a Hispanic baby last year and received quite a bit of criticism from many blacks wondering why they did not adopt a black child. These stories beg the question, why is there such a double standard when it comes to trans-racial adoption? Weigh in with your comments below.


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8 Tips That Nurture Your Guy…or Plant

Green LoveBy Guest Contributor, Allison Brooke Gordon

There is a poem “Love is like a flower,” but when it comes to relationships, trying to keep a plant alive is an even better analogy. Here are a few basic tips for keeping your relationship healthy and green. No matter the plant species (ornamental, cacti, bonsai, fig) or male type (rugged, debonair, metro-sexual, athletic), for this lesson, consider them one in the same. *Green thumb not required*:

1. Watering – If you forget to water your plant for five days or more, don’t make up for it by dousing the soil. Rather, water more often, with less over saturation. The same holds true for affection with your man. A little attention more frequently leads to a more consistent growing relationship.

2. Pruning – Once you get to know your plant you will understand the cycle in which you need to prune. Cutting back and being prudent about certain stems can make a plant grow stronger and steadfast.  Letting every aspect grow uncontrollably will do more harm than good, and no one wants a weed. Be cautious though on which stems, habits or attributes you clip.

3. Atmosphere – Keep a light, cool and well ventilated atmosphere. Do not isolate your plant by restricting it to one place void of its own kind. Also, recognize places where you and your plant can have intimate moments. This will help it thrive. The kitchen (windowsill), the bedroom (night table), the bathroom (pedestal) are locations that can keep things new and exciting for your plant and you.

4. Communication– Talk to your plant even though it will most likely not answer and you may see a response over time (petals and leaves tilted or arms outstretched for an embrace). Try not to get frustrated if its not blooming quickly enough. Do not shout at it from a distance, and do resist the urge to exhale on it. It is a myth that hovering over and breathing on a plant is good for it.

5. Individuality – Remember that your plant is its own species. Do not care for a cactus like an orchid and do not try to make it one. Be respectful of their roots and allow room to grow. If you do not want your plant to grow, keep it in a restrictive pot or space so its roots can rot and die.

6. Time and Care – You may need to leave your plant alone due to a work trip or vacation.  Do be sure to give it plenty of water and enough food while you are away. If you will be gone for an extended time ask a trustworthy friend to keep an eye out while you are away.

7. Seek Outside Care Tips – Ask your friends that are surrounded by blooming plants, or in happy relationships, what they do to keep them flourishing. These experts may help you recognize that if need be, you should let a flaccid plant go.

8. General Health Tips – Plants and relationships will look pale and sickly at one time or another. Do not give up. Whether a perennial or seasonal, long distance or long term, there will be tough cycles. If you continue to nurture your plant or relationship it will come around. It is also fine to have more than one plant or relationship if you can keep them all alive and healthy, though better to have a healthy strong one than five wilted ones.

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What Susan Boyle Can Teach Us About Beauty

susan-boyle-pic-smBy Guest Contributor, Bethany Pinnick

Some of you may have heard by now of Susan Boyle, the Scottish woman who performed on the British version of American Idol. Performance seems like a weak word to describe what Ms. Boyle did- in the Black community, we might say that Susan Boyle sang on that show, bringing the audience to their feet just a few lines into her song, and utterly wowing Simon Cowell. But what really stood out about Ms. Boyle is that she is not a conventionally attractive woman – she’s not slim, or young, or stylish, or even particularly graceful in the way that some heavy-set women can be. When she marched across the stage to begin her song, it was apparent from the audience’s and judges’ expressions that that their expectations for Susan Boyle’s performance are very low. But Susan’s singing isn’t just good, it’s fantastically good- and she leaves no doubt that her ability is on par with any other top singer. What really strikes me about this situation, however, is why we should all be so surprised about Ms. Boyle’s talent. Should someone have to look a certain way or have a certain stature to be an amazing singer? Have we gotten so used to the packaged, stylized, and constructed vocalists of our time that we have forgotten that talent and image are not interdependent? It shouldn’t be surprising that Susan Boyle has a remarkable gift; it’s remarkable that we somehow expected her voice to match her image, restricted by our own lack of imagination. So, in considering Susan Boyle, I found the true gift of her performance to not only be hearing her incredible voice, but also the reminder to not let others or even ourselves limit us to the small confines of outward beauty.
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Does Your Hair Prevent You From Exercising?

Does the thought of messing up your hair prevent you from working out? You are not alone! Robin Robinson from the Fox station in Chicago did a 2-part series on black women’s tough choice between exercise and hair style preservation. 

Part 1: Hair Can Keep Black Women from Exercising

Part 1: Hair Can Keep Black Women from Exercising



Part 2: Great Hairstyle or Exercise?

Part 2: Great Hairstyle or Exercise




Tell us what you think –  how does your hair prevent you from having a more active lifestyle?

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Easter Hats

Happy Easter! We hope all of you are enjoying this sacred day with your families. In honor of all of you across the country putting on your “Easter Sunday’s best,” here’s a slideshow that the LA Times featured on “Church Crowns” – several ladies sporting their magnificent hats.

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Green Beauty Products

Green BeautyBy Guest Contributor, Ebony Staton Weidman

When it comes to beauty products I am a products junkie! But I recently learned that a lot of my obsession wasn’t good for the environment—polluted water, was non-biodegradable, and in some cases was dangerous for me to use on my skin.

My advice:  Read your labels.  Anything with more than 3 syllables probably has a ton of bad preservatives in them. Chuck anything with parabens, petroleum, artificial color, or that may have been tested on animals.

Looking for some beauty products that you can feel environmentally good about? Here are a few I recommend. They are all natural, plant-based, smell yummy and contribute to a good environment and overall fabulousness:
1)  Bobbi Brown
2)  Aveda
3)  Origins
4)  Carol’s Daughter
5)  Kiss My Face

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